Yes, you read that correctly, it did say frustration is your friend!
Often when we are in the depths of our personal process, frustration comes to visit us for a while or for a few moments. For the most part our response to frustration is to try doing the thing we were trying to do before or when the frustration set in. This is part of the problem, when we get frustrated it generally leaves us on the proverbial hamster wheel and round and round and round we go until we give up and walk away from the issue at hand.
I have learnt over the years that frustration is a great friend and ally in my own personal process. So how does that work?
The emotional body is one unit of human energy and it contains all of the emotions we full, the full spectrum from bliss to blame, happiness to horror, love and lamentation, joy to jealousy, bitterness and sweetness. When we suppress one emotion, we simply numb all of them. It’s like placing a partial damn on a river, it may still be flowing, but the flow will have changed significantly.
Sometimes our frustration is born out of wanting to opt for a spiritual bypass, meaning, we don’t want to ‘go there’, but would rather jump straight into all the nice feelings and grab the resolution with both hands. In reality, that never works, perhaps temporarily as we ride the ‘feelgood’ wave, but in the long term, we are still struggling with unresolved feelings and self image.
Frustration is your friend for as you ride the wave of frustration it can take you to exactly where you need to go. Frustration leading to anger, leading to our deeper wound and then leading to the resolution.
When we get frustrated, we are in a good place. Let me repeat that: When we are frustrated, we are in a good place, a very good place. All that is necessary is to take advantage of the charge of energy behind the frustration and ride the wave; it will lead us to exactly where we need to go.
If you feel ready to get really frustrated during a Skype or Phone session with me, get in touch and you’ll be riding the wave soon and I promise not to play Hawaii Five-O music in the background, unless of course you ask me to.
With love,
John
